Post by liam on Jul 28, 2013 6:24:33 GMT -5
Sad at seeing Henry go. His strategy and attitude seemed most similar to mine from S5. Funny we both went out in 5th, although I think that it'll make FTC interesting. I really don't know who is going to win.
Also, jury members pretending there wasn't bitterness at the beginning of the thread is ridiculous. They've clearly cooled down in recent days, which is nice to see, but there was a tremendous amount of bitterness during the game.
While I'm glad everything seems cool with people now, I really don't understand how everyone can seem so angry with each other one week and then totally fine the next week. Not really my position to judge since everybody seems cool with how it worked out.
I think some people tend to really express their emotions and frustrations to others and don't expect their words to stick after the emotions are gone. Probably because that's how they treat what other people say about them.
I tend to be pretty reflective about what I say and not be as expressive with emotions. I mean, I clearly like to express my ideas, which is why I write long things on my thoughts. It kind of showed up with Knox and me, but more explicitly with Mark.
I called out Knox on some of his behavior towards me, because he didn't even seem to register that just because you are no longer upset doesn't mean that you never did the things you did. I say more explicitly with Mark, because when he apologized, I said something like, "A mistake you make multiple times isn't a mistake, it's a pattern you refuse to fix". He took it as a threat. It's really meant as, "If you're actually sorry about something, you need to reform your action so that you don't do it again".
It's two different types of ways of interacting and each can work fine within itself, but when they collide there are going to be conflicts. Somebody who just expresses emotions in a kind of rough manner is going to clash with someone who expects these expressions to have been long thought out and more solidified viewpoints.
That's actually a pretty valuable thing I think I've learned from watching this game. I'm not sure what I would tell everybody who I'm describing here (Selena, Knox, Dominic and sometimes Mark are the examples that come to mind). I guess just be aware that actions will be interpreted negatively by a group of people and they will, for the most part, just avoid dealing with you when that happens.
Also, jury members pretending there wasn't bitterness at the beginning of the thread is ridiculous. They've clearly cooled down in recent days, which is nice to see, but there was a tremendous amount of bitterness during the game.
While I'm glad everything seems cool with people now, I really don't understand how everyone can seem so angry with each other one week and then totally fine the next week. Not really my position to judge since everybody seems cool with how it worked out.
I think some people tend to really express their emotions and frustrations to others and don't expect their words to stick after the emotions are gone. Probably because that's how they treat what other people say about them.
I tend to be pretty reflective about what I say and not be as expressive with emotions. I mean, I clearly like to express my ideas, which is why I write long things on my thoughts. It kind of showed up with Knox and me, but more explicitly with Mark.
I called out Knox on some of his behavior towards me, because he didn't even seem to register that just because you are no longer upset doesn't mean that you never did the things you did. I say more explicitly with Mark, because when he apologized, I said something like, "A mistake you make multiple times isn't a mistake, it's a pattern you refuse to fix". He took it as a threat. It's really meant as, "If you're actually sorry about something, you need to reform your action so that you don't do it again".
It's two different types of ways of interacting and each can work fine within itself, but when they collide there are going to be conflicts. Somebody who just expresses emotions in a kind of rough manner is going to clash with someone who expects these expressions to have been long thought out and more solidified viewpoints.
That's actually a pretty valuable thing I think I've learned from watching this game. I'm not sure what I would tell everybody who I'm describing here (Selena, Knox, Dominic and sometimes Mark are the examples that come to mind). I guess just be aware that actions will be interpreted negatively by a group of people and they will, for the most part, just avoid dealing with you when that happens.
